not knowing is good (sometimes)

If you ask someone something and they do not want to tell you, never, I repeat, NEVER EVER EVER force them to spill whatever they're keeping. There must be a reason why they do not want to tell you. Maybe it is way too personal for them, maybe they do not trust you, maybe they think if they share it to you, it will bring so many memories that they try to bury or maybe if they tell you, they know so damn well that the stories will hurt you.

And that's why we don't force people to share their stories. Those are their stories, their histories and their memories and they have every right to keep it only in their pocket. If they want to share it, they will. But whatever it is, there must be a reason why they decide to tell you or not. And sometimes, maybe the reason is for your own good.

After all, some questions are better left unanswered and sometimes, it feels better to be left wondering than to know the truth, even though I know wondering can create scarier and eviler thoughts. At least with wondering around, you know there is a possibility that your thoughts can be wrong and maybe the truth is actually less scary than your thoughts. But maybe the truth is way more hurtful that your thoughts. You never know and I guess that's the best part of not knowing, you don't have to know about the bad news and the worst part is, you don't get the chance to know about the good news either. You are left with your own thoughts without knowing whether the truth is good or bad. With not knowing, you are left with two possibilities, the good one and the bad one and with knowing, there's no turning back. And I think I kind of put a very stupid example of Schrodinger's cat experiment with the whole 'with not knowing you never know about the good truth or the bad' thing-y, well.... maybe? I mean my example sounds stupid whereas Schrodinger's theory is more complex with the whole putting a cat inside a bunker with gun powder that has 50% chance of blowing up and 50% of not blowing up. So the cat can either be dead or not and we can only know it if we open that bunker. While the bunker is still closed, the cat is both alive or dead. We never know, because we do not open it. But if we open it, it's either a bad news or a good news. If we open it, we will see the truth whether the cat is dead or alive and whatever happens to that cat, it happens because we open it, it happens because of our curiosity and if the cat is dead, it is because our curiosity got the best of us. Curiosity kills the cat, doesn't it?


p.s: Well, I don't know much about his experiment because I know it from John Green's book and it is actually related with physic and quantum and I don't understand a thing about physic, so if I put the wrong thing about Schrodinger's cat experiment then I am truly sorry and I do not mean it and I don't really think that there are physic enthusiasts who actually read my blog since this blog is full of craps but yeah, sorry. And you can google the whole Schrodinger's cat experiment if you want to know more or maybe you can watch some videos about it on youtube.