"In your life, you'll meet two kind of people," I say to my 15 year old daughter who's currently crying her heart out since hours ago.
To be honest, having a teenager is quite a challange. You don't know what's on her mind or how her life is at school. You'd never know whether she has enough friends or no friend at all. You don't know what kind of friends she has or who breaks her heart and makes her so pessimistic towards life. You won't understand their problems no matter how much you wanna try. I mean, I've been a teenager before and I always thought my parents didn't understand me.
"The ones who fuel you with happiness and the ones who drain you empty, and it'll be hard to differentiate between those two. But you still have a lot of time ahead of you to learn," I continue, trying so hard to make her stop crying. It's so heartbreaking to see my daughter cry. Someone just broke her heart. Gosh, the first heartbreak is always the worst. Even I can still feel how mine felt like: it felt like that one person took every energy and love I've had, draining and leaving me empty and broken. Like the world stopped spinning on its axis and I kept tumbling down over and over again. But I'm a grown woman now. I got through it and I continue living and being happy again.
"What if the one that fuels you with happiness is also the one who drains you?" She tries to talk through her tears. Her eyes are swollen and red and sad and I wish I could wash her pain away. But I knew better. I've been there, honey.
"Baby, you happiness shouldn't be based on one person only. It's okay to find happiness in people. I find happiness in you and your dad and your sister. But I also find happiness within myself. Find that one spark in you that makes you happy. Surround yourself with your family and bestfriends who will always got your back. Find happiness in every little thing that makes you laugh and you'll never be drained empty."
"But mom, you just don't understand! I love him!" She argues. Oh believe me, I do. I was like you once; thinking that the world was ending when some boy left me.
"Actually, I do," I smile. "My first heartbreak was so bad. I faked being sick so that I could skip school. It felt like everything didn't matter anymore if I didn't have him. But you know what? I got over it and continued living. I learned that there are so many things worth chasing than a boy who broke my heart. And I got to meet your dad, too. And have my two amazing daughters. I know you think you'd build your future with him but darling, you're only 15. You'll face a lot of heartbreaks before you find the one. You'll grow and you'll realize that it's all a part of life. Someday you'll feel so drained and tired but look around and see. There are so many things to be grateful about. You get through it, okay?"
"I'll try. Thanks mom. I love you. But I really need to be alone right now. Please." She mumbles, finally wiping her tears away.
I sigh. No one will understand how a mind of a teenager works. "Okay. I'll be in my bedroom. Just knock if you need me."
"'Kay."
To be honest, having a teenager is quite a challange. You don't know what's on her mind or how her life is at school. You'd never know whether she has enough friends or no friend at all. You don't know what kind of friends she has or who breaks her heart and makes her so pessimistic towards life. You won't understand their problems no matter how much you wanna try. I mean, I've been a teenager before and I always thought my parents didn't understand me.
"The ones who fuel you with happiness and the ones who drain you empty, and it'll be hard to differentiate between those two. But you still have a lot of time ahead of you to learn," I continue, trying so hard to make her stop crying. It's so heartbreaking to see my daughter cry. Someone just broke her heart. Gosh, the first heartbreak is always the worst. Even I can still feel how mine felt like: it felt like that one person took every energy and love I've had, draining and leaving me empty and broken. Like the world stopped spinning on its axis and I kept tumbling down over and over again. But I'm a grown woman now. I got through it and I continue living and being happy again.
"What if the one that fuels you with happiness is also the one who drains you?" She tries to talk through her tears. Her eyes are swollen and red and sad and I wish I could wash her pain away. But I knew better. I've been there, honey.
"Baby, you happiness shouldn't be based on one person only. It's okay to find happiness in people. I find happiness in you and your dad and your sister. But I also find happiness within myself. Find that one spark in you that makes you happy. Surround yourself with your family and bestfriends who will always got your back. Find happiness in every little thing that makes you laugh and you'll never be drained empty."
"But mom, you just don't understand! I love him!" She argues. Oh believe me, I do. I was like you once; thinking that the world was ending when some boy left me.
"Actually, I do," I smile. "My first heartbreak was so bad. I faked being sick so that I could skip school. It felt like everything didn't matter anymore if I didn't have him. But you know what? I got over it and continued living. I learned that there are so many things worth chasing than a boy who broke my heart. And I got to meet your dad, too. And have my two amazing daughters. I know you think you'd build your future with him but darling, you're only 15. You'll face a lot of heartbreaks before you find the one. You'll grow and you'll realize that it's all a part of life. Someday you'll feel so drained and tired but look around and see. There are so many things to be grateful about. You get through it, okay?"
"I'll try. Thanks mom. I love you. But I really need to be alone right now. Please." She mumbles, finally wiping her tears away.
I sigh. No one will understand how a mind of a teenager works. "Okay. I'll be in my bedroom. Just knock if you need me."
"'Kay."
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